Reparenting our Boundaries

Children who are abused, grow into adults who struggle with shame. Use these effective affirmations which can help heal our deep trauma conditioning.

“I love you and we’re not going to start a fight today.“

First statement – some of us start fights because we don’t know how to do healthy conflict or intimacy. We’re in a fight before we know it. Shame comes from how we contribute to the mess, despite whether our partner is right or wrong.

“I love you and we’re going to just let the person be upset.”

2nd statement – some of us have a strong belief that we are responsible for and/or the cause of other people’s upset – just like in childhood with our parent’s moods (shame)

“I love you and we’re not going to apologize for something we didn’t do.”

3rd statement – some of us, (a lot of us) overly take fault or blame even when it’s made up in our head a lot of the time. Shame about existing or burdening others just like in childhood. Because we were made to feel like a burden or a failure for simply existing.

The way out – is finding & getting our adultness in shape to practice these self boundaries and not act from out of those childhood beliefs.